Help, my son won't stay in the church nursery without me.

[Christy]

I am new here and I tried a search first but could not find what I was looking for.  Hopefully someone can help me.

My 14 mn old son will not stay in the church nursery without or dh or myself.  Until recently he would stay with us through the songs and then I would bring him into the nursing mom's room and he would nurse and then sleep while I listened to the sermon.  But now he is too active for the nursing mom's room and is more interreseted in playing than nursing during church.  So he is too disruptive to the little babies in the nursing mom's room.

So, I have tried to put him in the nursery.  The first couple of times the workers needed to come get me because he was crying so hard.  I then tried staying with him for the first 10 min or so while he adjusted, but as soon as walked out the door, he was screaming and inconsolable.  Now, my DH and I take turns staying with him in the nursery for the entire sermon.  He does fine, but it's not ideal for us.  Church is important to us and I wonder how people do it.  Why is my child the only one not happy in the nursery?  Can he be content and my dh and I able to listen to the sermon together.  Sometimes I think "why are we even going"

Any suggestions?

Thanks

[moogie]

Some kids are just like this and from my experience of my 1st dd, at this age, they really just want to be with mum and dad.  They're just not ready to play with other kids generally at that age.  Some of the other kids his age may be fine because they may be used to being without mum and dad, (maybe they are in childcare or other playgroups.)

Just an idea, maybe you could take your ds to a playgroup during the week to get used to the situation of playing with others, while still knowing you are there, then he might start enjoying the nursery too. 

[kokonutmama]

My ds had a hard time at the gym when I put him in the nursery there, sounds a lot like yours, they had to come get me and all.  In the end we decided it was overstimulating in there for him, too much color, too much noise.  He'd be ok if they held him looking out the top of the dutch door.  I ended up not working out anymore, lol, so I guess that doesn't help you much.  sorry.