tired of babycenter

[wintermaya]

im trying to figure out how to use this sight. Im not the most computer literate person.

[wintermaya]

ok that worked. Well I rarely post anything on the June babycenter board. Mostly seems like no like minded individuals.  The last post I answered was to a woman who was looking for support as she had been letting her baby cry it out for 50 minutes. My advice go get the baby. I dont think that is what she wanted.  Another thread they had going was about how all the formula feeder are so tired of being made to feel bad about their choice.  I know breastfeeding is not for all but one lady said she never had tried it and said that lots of people are trying all these "new natural things" and that it will fall out of fashion? Ive never approached anyone and tried to tell them they were damaging their babies but do feel a little sad that some moms dont even give it a try.  This is my 6th year of nursing babies( when you count my 3 girls). And I work full time so it isnt always easy. 

[moogie]

Hi Amy, i think its at about this time in our babies lives that it starts becoming difficult on babycenter.  The majority of mums  on there do things the mainstream way (and thats fine for them) and i think it unfortunately starts turning into an us and them thing.  Unfortunately many mums feel that if they don't let their baby CIO or if they let their baby cosleep that they are doing a bad job, afterall their pediatricians tell them this. 

so anyway, one of the reasons i created this forum was for like minded mums to chat about these things and get support for the 'natural way'.

I'm going to go email some of the other june mums and see if we can get a regular thread going.  I know I'd love to do some chatting regulrly but didn't have the time to start a regular thread on babycenter that people had troubble finding anyway.

[mwelsh214]

Hey Ladies- I came over here from BBC, just because of a general lack of respect there. I have been made to feel badly for EBF for 5months. One woman actually sent me an Email that stated the following: "You BF'ing mothers are so hard headed that you won't respond to the needs of your children. They NEED food, they DESERVE food, they DESERVE to be fed by someone other than you. STOP trying to be trendy and STOP pushing your breasts in our faces in public."

I guess there is no room to get angry, but all I can think about is the fact the breastfeeding was the only thing around for about 99% of the time humans have been having babies...why would it be the trend? I just hope that I can find more support and understanding here!

[moogie]

"You BF'ing mothers are so hard headed that you won't respond to the needs of your children. They NEED food, they DESERVE food, they DESERVE to be fed by someone other than you. STOP trying to be trendy and STOP pushing your breasts in our faces in public."

oh that is the most ridiculous thing i have read.  btw if the time comes i can make this board private.  there is another thriving community of mums in a private board on here too.  we're dec 04 mums. 

[kristenp5]

I've also stopped posting very often on BBC.  The topics being discussed just don't really pertain to me and my family.  I've been having lots of issues with my June baby's sleep (she get up every hour all night to nurse), but I don't believe in CIO.  I don't want to start solids until she's 6 months old because of a history of allergies, but I don't know if that would help with her sleep anyway--probably not.  Also, I'm a little freaked out because some photos of me and my girls were posted  on another BBC board by someone by someone saying the photos were of her and her girls. 

[Lily84]

i too am sick of the stuff going on over there. I have been made to feel like i need to defend all of my choices, yet i hear how we make them feel bad for ff'ing. Oh well, im glad i found you ladies! i started ec a week ago and i had a question, when i posted on bbc i got all kinds of crap, what?!? Let them be babies, etc etc. Im so over it.

[wintermaya]

Sounds like the same issues I am having on BC.  I apparently started an online argument with a poster who FFs her child when I told her I thought it was the pot calling the kettle black when she said that she did not ever attempt to breastfeed because she found it to be "creepy".  The thread was about how all the FF moms feel judged by BF moms.  I found her post to be hypocritical.  To me saying she finds breastfeeding creepy isnt any different than my being critical of FF.  The lady who wanted support for her baby who was crying for nearly an hour got mad when I said go p/u your baby too.  "I said I wanted SUPPORT"  I believe was the response. Anyway... apparently not the place for me.  The funny thing is I never even told them waht I really think about CIO and people who never even consider giving BF a try. 

[Lily84]

yeh i know, right after you posted go to her i posted the same. then there was even a new thread lets support eachother saying how they found it hoorible that she asked for support and we jumped down her throat. i would hardly call that jumping down her throat! i just think if people choose to do cio they should at leats do the research and wait until the recopmmended 6 months of age minimum. cio was not meant for these youngins! oh well... not much can be done

[moogie]

I know bf ff can be a sensitive issue but its ridiculous to think that formula feeding is equal to breastfeeding.  I had a horrendous time bfing with my first so believe me i know that its not necessarily a bonding experience or easy but theres no refuting that it is whats best in the majority of situations if given a chance.  I do think both sides cop flack way too much.

Wintermaya, yeah i was offended by the whole "new natural" comment too. 

[heathernkids]

It sounds like we're all having the same problem. I don't like to make anyone feel stupid, but I think a lot of these people have some serious chips on their shoulders...I even think a lot stems from the fact they regret some of the choices they've made so they lash out at us- esp. when it comes to BF and CIO.

[kristenp5]

I think my big issue is that overall there is a totally different mindset on that board.  I am having so many issues with Willa sleeping, but if I post anything about it I'm sure I'll get the CIO answer which I obviously won't do.  It'll be nice here to be able to get ideas for solutions that will actually work for my family here!

[moogie]

i agree, its not that i have anything against the mums on bbc, its just that they don't do things like we do things.  its hard to get the support in the areas we need support in when its not up the mainstream alley.

[Lily84]

im pretty much sick of seeing thread afterthread about how we are alienating them and forcing them to defend their choices... i have been forced to defend my choices too! i think its just because we are a smaller group that no one except us noticed that we were being attacked.

i like a lot fo those ladies, and as long as parenting styles arent the issue i enjoy the board. i am now afraid to voice my opinion over there because if i do i am told how i am judgemental, feel like im better than they are, that i think they are a horriblemom, etc etc. when i ask for advice i am treated like im a nut. i  guess we just dont undertsand eachother. unfortunate i guess, but i am so glad to find some like minded individuals.

[SukeyTawdrey]

Someone actually said to stop pushing your breats in her face in public?  LOLOL!  I have a very literal image of that.  Sorry, we might as well know that I'm just not a "normal" person with a "normal" sense of humor  

I have been skipping a lot of threads... I guess I've just been hanging out for photo uno!

My "home" there is the diapering board.  It's an unhealthy addiction.  And I lurk every couple days on the car seat board since I'm a peds nurse/ trauma nurse car seat nut.

Josie