vent about baby wise misinformation.

[moogie]

well i was scouring babycenter for AP groups to invite here, and i came across a group called BW mums.  I was curious since i figured it was baby wise the BW.  It was upsetting yet a reality check for me and i guess it is all about what you learn about parenting.  Like Adrienne said, she discovered AP because it was pretty much the only book she read.  I think many (not all) of the parents on that thread are like us in discovering their parenting method by accident.  They were told BW was the way to go.  They read the book and the book says, all these positive things about scheduling and they think yeah this is the way to go.  with the positives that you as parents can continue along the samish life as before.  At first i was irritated by the comments and then i realised that this is the information they are given and that they research maybe too.  So many people say that AP makes for spoilt bratty children, and who wants that.

here's just  a few of the comments.  its most sad because its 2 month old babies:

DD is currently CIO right now in her crib. I think it's time to move away from putting her to sleep with shh/pat and really get down to business!

Yep, I'm with you. No more monkey business here. We're down to business. I even pushed Georgia this morning from 6:25 to 7:00, our wake time. YAY! I plan on really focusing this week and letting her cio if needed. SOOOO glad to see someone else is too! I'm here if you need me! :0)

I think she's slept in someone's arms while my mom has babysat for us, but I am not too concerned about it.

I think this is more of a vent about misinformation not the parents.

megs

[mum2maddox]

i know what you mean megs. i have often thought that if i wasnt brought up the way i was (AP) and i wasnt a wide reader ect i would have had my son and been armed with mainstream nonsense as parenting advice.

i firmly believe that being armed with the right information when you have a baby is vital. my Sis in Law is an example of mainstream parenting.

puts baby in bed with bottle in mouth and happily control cries.

never have i seen her give either of her children their bottle (breast feeding wasnt appropriate as she didnt want saggy boobs), more she props the bottle on their chest ugh...

it makes me so upset to see those kids they are never held and are spoken about rather than to.

i think its great you are starting this forum, so many young mums especially are getting information that is just in my opnion  wrong. 

anyway thats my POV and Vent.

take care

[skeettafic]

I totally agree, Megs.  I do think a lot of it is that people just don't any better.  Take my family for instance.  DH and I are AP (me a little more than he is but still very attached).  SIL and BIL are soooo mainstream - CIO, spanking, not wanting to spoil the baby by holding too much, telling my nephew that 'big boys don't cry', etc.  DH and my BIL are IDENTICAL TWINS!  I truly think that DH parents the way he does because that is my expectation of how you treat a child and BIL parents the way he does because that is his wife's expectations.  Every time I'm with them I get more and more upset about how my neice and nephew are being raised but I know that nothing I ever say will do any good - I'm only the one that works with children and adolescents for a living but what do I know!

[kokonutmama]

What get me is how people will repeat misinformation or even just plain make things up.  My did, for example says to me (says, not said, he repeats himself alot) "A kid will nurse as long as you let him" and "you have to just let him cry once in a while."  My brother tells me I'm raising a "mama's boy."  All based on what?  Their experience with childrearing? 

BTW, megs, those quotes made me physicly ill, I can't believe you could stomach reading that with your preggo hormones and all that.