vent, rant, rave, whatever....

[skeettafic]

You know, I really should take it from you guys that have cut the BBC ties because I just end up pissed off everytime I'm there.  I am so sick of seeing time-out threads.  THEY AREN"T EVEN TWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know Jocelyn is pretty mellow compared to a lot of toddlers but even she has her toddler moments.  And, even as verbal as she is I know that she would have NO concept of what we were trying to do with a time-out.  I am definitely not opposed to them and will probably use some modified 1,2,3 Magic type stuff when Jocelyn is older and its more appropriate but it just doesn't make sense to me to have these power struggles.  One mom had to keep putting DS in the time out chair for 30 min before he would sit for one!  Come on, you mean that whatever he needed to be 'disciplined' for was worth 30 minutes of struggling!

I hope I'm not offending anyone but gesh, they aren't going to be perfect.  And guess what, if Jocelyn throws food and the dog gets it (another 'problem' they are talking about) then the natural consequence is that that item is gone.  Now she doesn't purposefully feed the dog if its something she wants to eat.  AAAAGGGGGHHHH

I guess I'm just pissy today.  Anyone else want to vent?

[jnezmama02]

We do use timeouts for Jessie, but not for Emily. She's not old enough to understand yet.  We will probably start around 2.5 or so.

It seems to me like most of the people complaining (I lurked on there a few days ago) complain about things they could resolve if they took the initiative to change the set-up/routine rather than expecting their child to be the one who adapts. I can't remember who, but someone was complaining about being a SAHM and how her child only wants attention all the time. Well, yea...duh...he's a toddler. Of course, the majority of people told her to get a job and put her child in daycare as a solution, lol. 

Then, the same person said she planned on an all day out shopping trip w/ a friend on Monday and was worried how horrible her child would be during it. Well, yea...duh...he's a kid and has 1. a short attention span and 2. a limited amount of time he can control his behavior before needing a break from the outside world.  We limit our trips out w/ the girls to ONE place and take no more than 1-1.5hrs to do that activity/shopping/whatever (2hrs if you include car rides there and back). IF we absolutely need to do more than that amt of time, then we have a break halfway in between that takes almost as long as the activities before/after it. For example, today we went to Kohl's (took an hr), then stopped at Wendy's for a snack/rest break (took about 45min), and then went to Sam's (took about an hr). With driving there and back, we were gone right at 3hrs. Our kids were JUST getting fussy by the time we were at the end of our shopping trip at Sam's, so we sped things up to make it easier on them. We didn't make them feel exhausted and cry their eyes out, just so we could browse a little longer. It's called "putting your kids first" and SO many people on the BBC list just don't do that...and then blame the kids for understandable meltdowns.

[kokonutmama]

 

[moogie]

Then, the same person said she planned on an all day out shopping trip w/ a friend on Monday and was worried how horrible her child would be during it.

I'm sure most of us in this stuation would be thinking about the child and not ourselves.  By taking your kid shopping for a whole day is like tortur e and boredom for most kids.

When i take c to town, she is usually unimpressed with the whole thing.  i never think she is a pain, i feel for her that i had to drag her out with me and that she's not having fun.

[Karen + Greta]

I saw that thread too.  I agree it's not a mentality of putting the child first.  The "behavior problems" they mentioned, like throwing food/toys, and not listening......um, DUH!  I do not expect G to listen yet.  And I dont consider those things behavior problems in a LESS THAN 2 YEAR OLD!  4-5 year old, yes, but...

Anyway!  G is always really good when we are out.  The problem is when we're home and I need to do something.  She is addicted to taking walks, the back yard doesnt cut it!  She loves people and animals, and I guess she's bored with the ones that we have here.