Conversations in front of kids.

[moogie]

I am finding it really hard to not talk about things i shouldn't talk about in front of c.  Charlie is understanding soooo much now, and i'm worried about what i say in front of her.  I say the word shit sometimes, but not really any other bad words.  I'm more concerned about converstions i have with dh about other people that may affect c's view of those people.  oh and talking about sex in front of the kids and i don't mean in a vulgar way.  sometimes though i just forget that she is in the backseat of the car.

The other thing is talking about her in front of her.  like talking to someone else about her achievements(ends up sounding like praise - which we try to avoid) or talking about how she was grumpy.  Isn't me talking about her grumps just reinforcing her behaviour attention wise. 

Any views on this? 

[jnezmama02]

I know what you mean...it's tough.  We started truly censoring ourselves when Jessie turned 2yrs. We also try to either spell or use language that she has no frame of reference for when speaking about her or issues we don't want her to know (for example, when DH and I are discussing her behavior, we might reference her as "our eldest" or "j"). We never use those in normal conversation, so we're sure that she doesn't know what we're discussing. Sex is a tough one...we usually allude to it with other phrases.  We try very hard not to cuss around our kids and are pretty successful. I think the hardest one for me is to not argue in front of the kids.  I have to really bite my tongue sometimes and often our disagreements get swept under the rug b/c we never have time alone to work them out. uggh!

[ShannonandDel]

We can't keep a thing from Delaney. I keep saying the she is never going to be allowed to watch TV because she wants whatever anyone is talking about! SHe will be begging for junkfood and toys all the time. If we say the word bay in conversation with each other she has to go find her baby. I anyone mentions drink, she needs a drink, and so on and so on. Even when she doesn't seem to be paying attention she hears everything we say. Scotts mouth has become quite a bit cleaner lately. lol

[kokonutmama]

I said something about the "drain" in conversation and kody started going "choo-choo!"